BEWARE THE GATEKEEPER – Be Nice To The Receptionist.

When you check in with the receptionist before a job interview, remember to smile because the person behind the front desk holds more power than you think. Some companies feel a lot can be learned from how candidates treat receptionists, particularly if they’re rude, condescending or arrogant. Here are some tips:

  • Be friendly, but formal: Take the time to learn the receptionist’s name, which always leaves a positive impression.
  • R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Don’t treat the receptionist as an underling. If offered a drink, keep it simple and don’t expect the receptionist to go out of the way to serve you.
  • Watch your mouth: Expect everything you say to the receptionist to get back to the interviewer, so speak carefully. Avoid talking on your cellphone. Those conversations could come back to haunt you.
  • Bid adieu: Make sure to thank and say goodbye to the receptionist after the interview. Last impressions are unforgettable.

… and if you’re coming to the radio, beware of Christine Ravely at the front desk! No just kidding. Go get that job. – Justin

SECRETS FOR A LONG, HAPPY MARRIAGE

How do people stay married for 40, 50 and 60 years or more? Turns out, they know something the rest of us don’t. Those secrets were revealed to bachelors Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller, who traveled 12,000 miles around the U.S. to talk to couples they call the “Marriage Masters” — people who had been married four decades or more. They shared these secrets for a long and happy marriage:

  • Divorce? Never. Murder? Often! — Translation: Commitment is king. Couples who stay married a lifetime enter their marriage with the mindset that divorce is not an option. So when arguments, disagreements and other issues arise, they learn to work them out and don’t run away. The only deal breakers are the three A’s: addiction, adultery and abuse.
  • There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage, only perfect moments — It takes work to create a great marriage. As one wife said, “Whoever said being soul mates was going to be easy?” And her husband of 52 years added, “Marriage is a bed of roses — thorns and all.”
  • Unpack the gunnysack — Translation: Don’t be afraid to fight. Say what is on your mind. It’s the unexpressed frustrations that will cause more problems in the long run as they turn into resentments that will eat away at your marriage. Those who have been married for decades advise “unpack the gunnysack” by opening up the lines of communication.
  • Never stop dating — It’s not just the quality of time you spend together; it’s also the quantity that counts. Keep the romance burning by stoking the fire. Go out on dates, take getaway weekends and long vacations with just the two of you.
  • Love is a four-letter word spelled give — Be selfless. Marriage is not 50/50. It’s 60/40. You give 60 and take 40. And that goes for both of you.
  • Join the CMAT Club (Can’t Miss A Thing) — Life is short, so enjoy every minute of it. It’s easy to get caught in the day-to-day busyness of life and in the process take your spouse for granted. Life is an adventure and all too soon it will end. So relish your sweetheart’s presence now.
  • The discipline of respect — You can have respect without love, but you can’t have love without respect. According to all those interviewed, the No. 1 secret for a thriving, everlasting marriage is respect. When you respect your partner and your partner respects you, everything else flows into place: trust, connection, authenticity and love.

Could you add something, you learned, to this list? How about your parents or grandparents? Have they displayed these qualities? Reading this makes me want to go home and give my wife a hug and just go for a walk with her. – Justin

SUMMER STYLE RULES FOR WORK

Ok, So the boss sent his annual “Summer Dress Code” email a couple of weeks ago. So I decided to search for some expert advise regarding this subject. Here’s what I found. Oh yeah, and Happy Summer 2010! – Justin

It’s getting hot out there, but don’t let the heat melt your judgment when it comes to what you wear to work. InStyle fashion director Hal Rubenstein says, “The important thing to remember is that you’re at work. It’s not the beach and it’s not the weekend.” Some tips for dressing for work in the warmer months:

  • Assess your feet before wearing sandals. “Even a great pedicure doesn’t hide every foot flaw,” Hal says. So, choose sandals with thicker straps (for more coverage) and a back that covers your heels. And flip-flops are always a no-no!
  • Say no to silk and linen. These fabrics may seem perfect for summer, but silk makes you sweat and linen gets crazy wrinkled! Opt for cotton or lightweight wool.
  • Shorts shouldn’t be too short! Shorts for work should be around knee-length and in a work-friendly fabric like cotton or lightweight wool.
  • Choose a standout summer dress. Stick with classic color-block dresses with sophisticated details, not a flouncy chiffon dress that may feel light and pretty, but says “date night,” not “going to work.

Question… How conservative do you have to dress at work? Is it hard finding appropriate work clothes for summer?

SIX WAYS TO SAVE ENERGY

Temperatures are on the rise in the Motherlode. Here’s some info from (Woman’s Day). and YES, I read Woman’s Day. 🙂 – Justin

  1. Set your thermostat at 68 degrees Fahrenheit during the day and 60 degrees Fahrenheit at night.
  2. Keep lamps and TVs away from air-conditioning thermostats. The heat produced can cause the air conditioner to run longer.
  3. Reduce trips to the refrigerator. Each time the door is opened, up to 30% of the cold air can escape.
  4. Take a look at your furniture arrangement. Make sure vents and radiators aren’t blocked by sofas, chairs or other items.
  5. Remove lint from the dryer filter. A dirty one can increase energy use by up to 30%.
  6. Give your home an energy audit. Go to Home Energy Saver http://hes.lbl.gov/ to calculate your home’s energy use by zip code and find out the best ways for you to save energy.

Things Women Now Agree That DAD was Right!

GLAMOUR’s 10 THINGS YOUR FATHER WAS RIGHT ABOUT

  1. You are the prettiest girl in the world.
  2. Sinatra.
  3. You should always keep jumper cables in your car… just in case.
  4. Righty-tighty, lefty-loosey.
  5. That guy really wasn’t good enough for you.
  6. You do not need a pony.
  7. The cardinal rule of grilling: Pressing down on the burger will only dry it out.
  8. Yes, honey, all your male “friends” do secretly want more.
  9. Paying $200 for a haircut is crazy.
  10. It’s not worth trying to repair the toaster yourself.

Need help being a dad? See MOM!

According to a survey conducted by Spike TV, more and more guys are turning to their MOTHERS when they look for advice on how to be a good dad.

The fatherhood study revealed that today’s dads are doing more than ever before, taking on roles and activities that used to be taken care of by the wives.

Here are a few of the findings …

    * Role models for dads today are … moms. Dads look for advice from their own mothers and wives — rather than their dads — as a guide on how to be a good father.

    * Today’s dads are “soccer dads.” Guys are doing double-duty. They’re doing dad stuff like providing for the family and disciplining the kids. They are also doing “mom” stuff, like being actively involved in the kids’ lives.

There Are 4 Categories Of Dads:

1. “Super Dads” — 22% of dads are highly involved and nurturing. They are very confident that they are doing a great job of parenting.

2. “Struggling Dads” — 30% of dads feel the least prepared for fatherhood. They want to be highly involved and nurturing in their children’s lives, but feel like they just don’t know how.

3. “Juggling Dads” — 20% of dads want to be highly involved and nurturing in their children’s lives, but feel that they lack the time.

4. “Traditional Dads” — 27% of dads think dads should be less involved as nurturers and feel confident that they have a handle on their role.

HOW TO BUY A FATHER’S DAY GIFT THAT ISN’T A TIE

Poor Dad. His big day’s coming, and what’s in store. Solar-powered ear-hair trimmer? A tie covered with golfing ducks? Try something a little more sentimental:

  • Revisit Strawberry Fields. The Beatles, the Boss, Petula Clark. Buy him CD’s of the artists he introduced you to as a kid. He’ll be thrilled you remember his favorites.
  • Make it art-felt. Go back to the days when all your gift-giving was taken care of in arts-and-crafts. Paint a new family heirloom and have it framed. Or roll it, tie with a ribbon and include a few refrigerator magnets.
  • Go classic but personal. Pick out a money clip, a robe, PJs, socks, handkerchiefs, then get them monogrammed: D-A-D.

IMAGES OF FATHERS

I’ve always loved this. Happy Father’s Day! – Justin

4 years of age: My daddy can do anything!
8 years of age: My dad knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 years of age: My father doesn t quite know everything.
14 years of age: Naturally, Dad doesn t know that either!
18 years of age: The old man? He s way out of date!
25 years of age: Well, he might know a little bit about it.
35 years of age: Before we decide, let s get Dad s opinion about it.
60 years of age: Wonder what Dad would have thought about it.
65 years of age: Wish I could talk it over with Dad once more.

Bosses, LISTEN UP!

When you talk to your staff using business management jargon, it not only alienates your employees, but most of all it makes them perceive you as being untrustworthy and weak, according to a survey by the British organization YouGov. 40% of those polled said the use of jargon is on the rise in their offices. A whopping 60% said they would like to work in a jargon-free zone. But most managers are clueless, as 55% believe using such language is not a problem.

Here are the 10 Gobbledygook Phrases Bosses Should Never Use and their definitions:

  • Blue-sky thinking — Idealistic or visionary ideas that do not always have a practical application.
  • Get our ducks in a row — Making sure all arrangements are efficiently made.
  • Brain dump — To tell everything you know about a particular topic.
  • Think outside the box — Don’t limit your thinking to within your job description; be creative.
  • Joined-up thinking — Taking into account how things affect each other and not looking at something in isolation.
  • Drilling down — Getting more detail about a particular issue.
  • Push the envelope — Improve performance by going beyond commonly accepted boundaries.
  • The helicopter view — An overview.
  • Low-hanging fruit — The easiest targets.
  • At the end of the day — Something you say before you say what you believe to be the most important fact of a situation.

BUYING GIFTS FOR MEN

Father’s Day is Sunday. Buying gifts for men is not nearly as complicated as it is for women. Follow these rules and you should have no problems.

Rule #1: When in doubt, buy him a cordless drill. It does not matter if he already has one. I have a friend who owns 17 and he has yet to complain. As a man, you can never have too many cordless drills. No one knows why.

Rule #2: If you cannot afford a cordless drill, buy him anything with the word ratchet or socket in it. Men love saying those two words. “Hey George, can I borrow your ratchet?” “Okay. By the way, are you through with my 3/8″ socket yet?” Again, no one knows why.

Rule #3: If you are really, really broke, buy him anything for his car. A 99 cent ice scraper, a small bottle of de-icer or something to hang from his rear view mirror. Men love gifts for their cars. No one knows why.

Rule #4: Do not buy men socks. Do not buy men ties. And never buy men bathrobes. I was told that if God had wanted men to wear bathrobes, he would not have invented jockey shorts.

Rule #5: You can buy men new remote controls to replace the ones they have worn out. If you have a lot of money, buy your man a big screen TV with the little picture in the corner. Watch him go wild as he flips and flips and flips. Forget the program, your entertainment is watching him have fun!

Rule #6: Do not buy any man industrial-sized canisters of after-shave or deodorant. I’m told they do not stink-they are earthy.

Rule #7: Buy men label makers. Almost as good as cordless drills. Within a couple of weeks there will be labels absolutely everywhere. “Socks. Shorts. Cups. Saucers. Door. Lock. Sink.” You get the idea Again, no one knows why.

Rule #8: Never buy a man anything and then tell him he should read the instructions because the box says “some assembly required.” It will ruin his special day. He will always have parts left over.

Rule #9: Good places to shop for men include Northwest Iron Works, Parr Lumber, Home Depot, Lowe’s, John Deere, Valley RV Center and Les Schwab Tire. (NAPA Auto Parts and Sears Clearance Centers are also excellent men’s stores. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t know what the gift is. “From NAPA Auto, eh? Must be something I need. Hey! Isn’t this a starter for a ’68 Ford Fairlane? Wow! Thanks.”)

Rule #10: Men enjoy danger. That’s why they never cook (but they will barbecue). Get him a monster barbecue with a 100-pound propane tank. Tell him the gas line leaks. “Oh the thrill! The challenge! Who wants a hamburger?”

Rule #11: Tickets to a sports event are a smart gift. However, he will not appreciate tickets to “A Retrospective of 19th Century Quilts.” Everyone knows why.

Rule #12: Men love chain saws. Never, ever, buy a man you love a chain saw. If you don’t know why, please refer to Rule #7 (Remember what happens when he gets a label maker?)

Rule #13: It’s hard to beat a really good wheelbarrow or aluminum extension ladder. Never buy a real man a stepladder. It must be an extension ladder. No one knows why.

Rule #14: Rope. Men love rope. It takes us back to our cowboy origins, or at least the Boy Scouts. Nothing says “I love you” like a hundred feet of 3/8″ manila rope. No one knows why.