Proposal Day

Over 50% of proposals today are initiated by the woman. That means that women are getting more aggressive about moving the relationship along. That is not a natural tendency for men. For them, “moving the relationship along” means getting the phone bill in both their names. Fred Cuellar is the author of “How To Buy A Diamond” and “The World’s Greatest Proposals” He and Korbel Champagne teamed up to research proposal stories and he compiled the following list of mistakes to avoid:

  • Proposing on a holiday or birthday. Consider picking a day meaningful to your relationship, such as the anniversary of your first date. Your girlfriend wants her day to shine – don’t propose on a holiday that can’t be yours as a couple.
  • Allowing other women to try on the ring. It’s smart to get a second opinion, but don’t use your fiancee’s friends as guinea pigs. She doesn’t want to find out they all saw it before her. She wants to show it off for the first time.
  • Leaking the news. When you’re ready to pop the question, don’t spill the beans to too many “confidants.” Sharing the news with friends and family is more exciting if you do it together.
  • Forgetting her family. Pull your manners out of the closet and call the appropriate member of her family for “the talk.” According to a recent survey conducted by Korbel, 42 percent of Americans feel the act of asking a woman’s family for her hand – whether it be her father, mother or even a sibling – is still a time-honored tradition.
  • Playing hide and seek with the ring. Imagine this: you’re about to propose to your girlfriend when she swallows the ring because you “cleverly” hid it in an ice cream cone or cocktail. Sending your fiancee to the emergency room might not be the best way to start your future.
  • Staging a practical joke. Minutes before the proposal, throwing your girlfriend off by convincing her that you’re in jail or that you won’t be ready for marriage for years could have unintended consequences.
  • Missing the VIP treatment. Do your research and you’ll find that many venues are happy to create a special setting for your proposal. For example, many theaters will schedule private screenings, restaurants can provide champagne toasts and amusement parks can offer private rides.
  • Exhibiting suspicious behavior. As proposal time approaches, make sure your behavior remains consistent with how you act on a daily basis. Repeatedly touching your pocket to make sure the ring is secure and coming up with off-the-wall excuses for your whereabouts can both be giveaways to the bride-to-be.
  • Acting like you settled. A surefire way to ruin any proposal is to start with any of the following statements: “You win.” “We’re not getting any younger…” “In spite of what my mother says.”
  • Losing sight of what the proposal is all about: Your proposal will be perfect if it is honest, heartfelt and passionate.

Wedding Month – JUNE!

Ever wonder where those familiar wedding rituals came from. Many customs are as old as love itself, dating back to Roman times or before, according to expert Carley Roney, editor of theknot.com, a wedding-planning web site. For example, the traditional white color of the wedding gown is popular because “in ancient Roman times, white was a color of celebration,” she said. “The tradition of the bride and groom not seeing each other on their wedding day comes from the ancient tradition of the bride not showing her face to the groom at all before the wedding,” said Roney, author of “The Knot Guide to Wedding Vows and Traditions.” Here are the origins of other popular wedding traditions, according to Roney:

  • Carrying the bride over the threshold — An ancient superstition held that evil spirits collected on the threshold of the new home waiting to invade the bride through the soles of her feet, a disaster that could be avoided if she entered in her husband’s arms.
  • The bride’s veil The centuries-old practice of hiding the bride’s face was intended to preserver her modesty. Romans covered the bride in yellow cloth.
  • Groomsmen — These friends of the groom have been present at weddings since ancient times, when brides were often captured by force and the new husband needed allies to help him fend off her family.
  • The bridal train — The long trailing train on gowns dates back to the Middle Ages when the higher the bride’s social standing, the longer the material she dragged down the aisle.
  • Throwing rice — Grains were thought in ancient times to symbolize fertility, so scattering them over the bridal couple ensured they’d have many children.
  • The wedding ring — Its circular shape is believed to symbolize endless love, Ancient Egyptians began the tradition of placing it on the third finger of the left hand because they believed that the vein in that finger ran directly to the heart.
  • Tossing the bouquet — Centuries ago, wedding guests would tear at the bride’s flowers and clothes to share her happiness, so the bride tossed her bouquet to ensure she got away in one piece.
  • Tossing the garter — The scramble for the bride’s garter dates back to a medieval tradition in which wedding guests invaded the bridal chamber to steal the bride’s stockings for good luck. To avoid this calamity, a groom tossed the garter to his friends.